What does the word values mean to you? Dictionary.com’s definition as a verb is “to consider with respect to worth, excellence, usefulness, or importance” and “to regard or esteem highly”. So I ask, what are your values, what do you esteem highly, respect, or put in the highest importance? Have you ever made a list and really looked at it? Why not? You should give it a try.
- Financial Security (seem to be stuck on the F’s)
This is just a quick list but I think it pretty much covers it. It doesn’t surprise me at all. It actually just firms up what I already knew. My relationships and health I value over my career. This may seem weird but when you are a people person like me, it doesn’t. My mom keeps telling me that she didn’t think I would ever work a 40 hour a week job (she knows me way to well, love you mom). This was usually because I was in school all the time and couldn’t do it but the more I think about it, I’m not sure I want to work a 40 hour a week job. I want to make enough money to be financially secure but in the mental health field 40 hours a week is very draining on your own mental health. So obviously I am still looking for balance in the career aspect of things.
Now I look at my life as it is right now and compare it to the values I just listed. Am I on track with my values? I think so. Are there some things I can work on? Of course, I’m human and I go through times of placing more value on things than others. So now I need to decide what I need to change. I have a few ideas. I need to spend some more time on making financially smart decisions, after all next year our last one will go off to college and somehow I have to figure out how to pay for that. I need to spend more time with my friends. Because of some recent circumstances, I have let relationships with friends be put on the back burner, but I think I am ready to bring them to the present once again.
We all know that my exercise/health is an important value and I try to work on that daily. (Latest run of 6 miles this morning in what had to be 1000% humidity!) Still working on eating better but I think I do pretty good (I’m not eating as many chocolate chip cookies and ice cream as I really want to eat! Moderation!).
So my overall reflection is that I have think I have strong values that I am working to make stronger and I am thankful I took a moment to really think about and explore my thoughts regarding them. Now it is up to you. Make a list of your values, examine your life and how they fit in. If it is not what you want, then it is time to make some changes. If it is, then congrats. Keep up the great work!