Sundays

weekends2Kind of a bittersweet day for me and I am guessing for many others.  It is the day before the work week begins.  I try and cram it full of all the things I did not get done on Saturday and then at the end of the day I find myself wondering where my day went.  Only to realize, hey you, “you did all of these things, got some things done and others procrastinated for another weekend but now it’s time to prepare for work on Monday.”   I wonder if anyone else has this dialogue go through their heads or if it is just me!

I guess this blog goes well with my balance blog from a few days ago.  How do we balance our weekends to be a recovery too so we feel recharged to take on a new week?  I must admit, I have only been working full time for about 3 years so I am trying to get use to this.  And I also must say that I like what I do, I just like to spend time with my family so much so that I begin to wish I was financially well off so I could stay at home and be with them more.  I am sure that this is not just my wish but the wish of many others. weekends1

So back to the question: How do we balance our weekends to be a recovery period so we feel recharged and ready to take on a new week?  Any ideas?  I might have a few.  How about the policy of no work at home!  Can’t say I follow this right now but I am planning on implementing it after the first of the year because I think I will be organized with my new job at that point to be able to make that call.

Date nights?!  We try to have them a couple of times a month.  Sometimes they range from a matinee movie, a long bike ride on a local rail trail, a concert (a little more expensive), and maybe a family date day like rock climbing.  Our goal is not to spend a lot of money but it is more about time spent together.  This definitely makes the weekend that much better.

What are some things you do to make the weekends last longer?  Is it okay to do nothing on the weekend?  (Really need to know the answer to this one!)weekends

Not so motivated Tuesday

Do you ever just wake up in that funk?  Not really wanting to do anything, knowing you have a few things to get done but you have a few more days before they have to be done.  So you procrastinate!  That’s where I am right now.  At least that is where I was this morning, not really sure it has gotten much better, other than the fact that I have gotten some stuff done this afternoon.

I was able to motivate myself to go out for a run (5.5 miles!  Yeah me!) because the weather is beautiful and I need to enjoy it while I can.  Winter will be here soon and as I discussed in previous post, I am not a great cold weather runner, although I am working on getting better at that.  I tend to believe all that I need to do is get the right equipment (ie, warm running clothes) and I will be fine.  So another way for me to procrastinate today was spend some time thinking about what to get.  Not even shopping online for it (this is getting to be a new lazy!) just thinking about it!

I continue to work through my funk/bad mood and think about the book I just finished, The Happiness Project.  I got some ideas for some future blog posts but I will leave you with the thought from the book that is helping me get through my lack of motivation:

“Act the way I want to feel… although we presume that we act because of the way we feel, in fact we often feel because of the way we act…studies show that even an artificially induced smile brings about happier emotions.”  (Happiness Project)

Really living!

“They really lived!!” a quote from Secondhand Lions

Last night I got home kind of late after spending the evening with some wonderful ladies and when I came in Dave was watching the end of a movie.  I felt like I had seen the movie but couldn’t really remember but I wanted to respect him and his viewing but I wanted to chat so I sat down and watched the last few minutes.

Then I heard that line, “They really lived”.  This got me to thinking, what does it mean to really live?  Will people say that about me when I die?  “She really lived!”

I want them too.  And I really want to live today so I can give them a chance to say it some 50 or so years from now (very optimistic that I will live healthly for a long time!).

But then that makes me begin to define what does it mean to “really live”.  Most of our days are filled with routines.  We have work, meetings after work, kids to get to dance or other activities, and we go, go, go.  Then on the weekends we try and rest.  Is that how we want to live?  Probably not all of that but how do we find a balance that allows us to really LIVE?

As I have been saying this week, I am on a staycation at home between jobs and I am trying to relax and with that comes defining how to relax (still working on that) but now I add on what does it mean to Live?  Could I give myself one more challenge for the week, I thought I was on vacation?!  But I think defining how we live also defines how we relax so as much as those two maybe seem like separate concepts I think they are very similar. 

This is what I have thought so far about living:

  1. Make the most of everyday
  2. Smile a lot because I am convinced it can change your mood.  It is hard to smile when you are in a bad mood but if you try it, it can make it better faster.
  3. Enjoy the people you are with.  Including take time and get together with others.  It is so worth it!
  4. Allow yourself to cry and show emotions.  I am taking this one to heart this year and as you already know, I cry a lot especially when it has to do with my senior in high school.
  5. Tell people how much they mean to you.  They want to hear it but won’t ask and you will benefit from it too as long as it is the truth.
  6. Do something with your partner/spouse/good friend at least once a month.
  7. Try new things.  Just recently went rock climbing for the first time.  It was great and something I had never done before.
  8. Read and develop new knowledge about new things of interest.  You can teach old dogs new tricks!
  9. Take time to relax.  Working on it but if I am doing some of these other items, I find it very relaxing.
  10. Last but not least…. Remember to take time for yourself.  I do mine through running and training.  I really get in touch with my body and feel at peace (most of the time!).

 

I hope you find these helpful.  I am sure if I stick to this plan others will exclaim after my long, long life, “She really lived!”

Fabulous Fall on a Friday

It’s here!  It’s here!! Fall!!!!  I don’t know about you but this is my favorite time of the year.  I love the colors of the trees, the crispness in the air and just the feeling of fall.

Today was my day off and so I cleaned like a mad woman with the doors and windows open letting the fresh fall air in.  It was awesome.  My other favorite thing is this:

No, not the temperature gauge itself, but what is says.  They weather is in the 60’s at 3 o’clock in the afternoon.  Love it!

I also love my new find at Lowes.

I know you are thinking, “hey crazy lady they are just mums”.  But they are not just mums, they are a tricolor mix that a wonderful grower has put together and I didn’t have to buy three different kinds and make my own this year.  Poof, already done for me!

There is just something about fall that puts the energy back into my step!  Yippee!  Get out and enjoy the first day of fall tomorrow!

Training Tuesday with Race Results

The final results are in!  Last Sunday I completed my second Lone Gull 10K and here are my results compared to last year:

Last year:                                                     This Year:

52:57                                                                         50:15

8:32 min miles                                                    8:06 min miles

248 out of 564 runners                                  139 out of 630 runners

42 out of 175 in age division                        11 out of 94 in age division

I did pretty good.  Unfortunately I did not meet my goal, which I am kind of sad about.  My goal was under 50 mins. and being in the top 10 would have been a bonus (I would have had to hit under 49 mins for that to happen, so maybe next year).

I guess why I am disappointed was because I didn’t enjoy the race either.  The first mile “negative Nancy” (you might know her by another name, but she is the negative voice in my head) started badgering me with comments like, “you should have worked out more because I don’t think you can do this!”  “What were you even thinking doing this again.  You could turn around now, take off your number and just go home.”  I mean it was serious!  I tried every attempt at shaking her off and letting her fly into the ocean (after all I was running alongside it and it was a gorgeous day!).   But she would go nowhere.  It only got better after getting to the halfway mark (5K, 3.1mile marker) that I turned on negative Nancy and was like, “I gotta get back somehow!  I might as well run back!”  This is not to say the run got easier, I just got more determined.  I began to think back at how my split times were faster this time than last year.  How I had a goal of under 50 mins and I could possibly make it if I kept up the same pace.  How Dave has not seen me cross this finish line because he was out of town for last year’s race.  There were all kinds of good thoughts that were finally going through my head, FINALLY!

When I got to the 5.5 mile point I was even more determined to make it.  But felt I had used up all my energy to get to this point.  That is when I turned it over to a source greater than myself, I call him “God” but you can call him your own name.  I just said if you want me to finish than you have to carry me because I am spent (it takes a lot to battle those negative thoughts in your head and run fast!).  I was provided with energy to cross that line at the end and almost reach my goal time.  I take responsibility for not making my goal due to the many external forces I let infiltrate my mind.  This just makes me more determined for the next time.

I know you are probably thinking, hey crazy girl (I’m getting pretty use to being called that in my blog), you still did awesome over last year.  You are still improving and now you have a better goal for next year.  That is true!  And I do!  And that plan to change things starts now.  I am still figuring out how but I will keep you updated.

I think the biggest lesson I learned is how much energy we give negative thoughts.  How I could’ve let her win!  But I pushed through and now I need to make some changes and most of all STAY OUT OF MY HEAD for a little while, at least until I can get in more positive space and quit beating myself up.

Energy, How do you get yours?

Today was the beginning of a three day weekend for me.  I have a race on Sunday (the one I have been talking about in my training blogs) so I have Sunday off.  I was thinking I would sleep in a little and then get up and go do yoga.  But the energy was not there.  Oddly enough it wasn’t even there to sleep in.  I know I am weird that I don’t have energy to sleep in.  So I decided to get dressed and go have lunch with my other half, but first I would run some errands, that is when the strangest thing happened to me.

I was in Dick’s sporting goods when some random guy came walking past me, looked me in the eyes and said, “You work too hard.”  I didn’t know what to make of this, in fact I laughed it off.  I was however wondering if this was just a crazy event and I should not read too much into it or if it was someone trying to tell me something.  It kept sticking out in my mind.

At lunch I asked my other half what he thought of it.  He told me that I do look tired.  Not exactly what a girl wants to hear but sometimes the truth hurts.

So I spent the afternoon trying to figure out how to get more energy and not look tired.  My solution was cleaning the house and doing the laundry.  Not sure it helped the not looking tired part but I did have a lot of energy and got a lot of stuff done.

I guess that is where I get my energy, cleaning.  Sounds crazy but I guess it is true.  Now I need to work on the looking tired part.  Hopefully I just need to make some changes in my life and figure out some better balance in order to get that back on track.

How do you get your energy?