Janathon 11/31

Today was another family day.  It wasn’t a run but it should be counted as a long run because we went cross country skiing.  If you have never done this than you should 1. Give it a try and 2. Do it with friends and family so they can make fun of you and get an extra ab workout laughing so hard.

We had a great time but due to such a tough workout and a big lunch plan, we could only do it for about 2.5 hours but I am sure I will feel it tomorrow.  Thank goodness for my massage that I have scheduled for tomorrow afternoon.

Here are some pics from today: (don’t get use to this, I think I’m spoiling you! :-))

Fun times.

Fun times.

Different shot than my regular running shoes shot.

Different shot than my regular running shoes shot.

Me and Dave

Me and Dave

Sisters!

Sisters!

Alli being a goofball.

Alli being a goofball.

Dad and daughter

Dad and daughter

 

I hope you all had a wonderful 11th day of Janathon and a wonderful weekend.

Do anything fun this weekend or try anything new?

 

Janathon 10/31 – Cold walk in the woods

Yep, you guessed it, today’s janathon work out is brought to you by a cold walk in the Vermont woods.  It was beautiful and we were able to take our time because it was kinda icy on those trails.  Not sure how long the walk took because we obviously took time to stop and look at the view but it was about three miles.  I’m totally counting that as my work out for the day.  I am sure I burned extra calories with all the layers and my body working a little harder to stay warm.

Here are some great pics of the walk.

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The walk is around a reservoir which was frozen over.

The walk is around a reservoir which was frozen over.

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Water that was flowing into the lake that is now frozen over and very slick to walk across.

Water that was flowing into the lake that is now frozen over and very slick to walk across.

Looking out on the water.  So pretty and peaceful here.

Looking out on the water. So pretty and peaceful here. 

Hope you had a wonderful day on this 10th day of Janathon.  Do anything fun to log that exercise?

 

Letting go…

Last night we were off to see my daughter dance as a part of the University Dancers.  These are dance majors who try out to be in their dance teacher’s pieces.  Not everyone makes it but those that do, do a wonderful job.  My daughter was able to be a part of her Dean’s piece and to top it all off it was his last dance piece because he is leaving the University to be the Chair of the a dance department in Hong Kong (how cool is that!).

She made the program.  On the far left!  Too cool.

She made the program. On the far left! Too cool.

Anyway, it was this really cool piece where they had to dance with lights and spotlight themselves as they danced and also each other.  I loved the portrayal of connectedness in the universe.  We are all connected.  I have never really been a dancer (well I’ve been taking tap dancing for about 6 years but still learning) but I love art and art expression and to me most of these dance pieces touched me in one way or another.

What I really love is being able to watch my daughter dance and do something she loves.  You can just tell this is how she expresses herself.  I miss seeing this on an almost daily basis.  When she was growing up, I was always a part of her dance studio.  I was able to watch her pieces develop and then watch them be mastered and displayed on stage.  I miss that but I’m so glad she has found a place that fits her so well.

So now in her second year at college I find I am still adjusting to her being away.  I miss not being a part of her life every day.  I also miss watching her grow as a dancer and performer.  I do find it is easier than last year but it is strange raising a child and then letting them go to spread their wings.  I can honestly say it is not easy but I try to have confidence that because of her upbringing she will make good decisions.  So far so good!  I think I need to work a little more at letting go.  But really the only thing that helps someone when they are letting go is time.  No rush through time here!  I’m gonna cherish everything.

Father’s Day Fun… Juneathon 15/30

Today was supposed to be a long run day but instead I opted for a hike up a mountain with my other half for Father’s Day.  It was cross training.  It also wasn’t nearly the mileage I needed to go but it was fun and a great way to spend a beautiful day.

Here are some wonderful pics of our journey.  Enjoy!

Juneathon update: (PS – we are halfway through!)

3.75 miles with a 1000 ft elevation gain

A nice walk through the woods.

A nice walk through the woods.

In the winter this is a ski slope, steeper than it looks.

In the winter this is a ski slope, steeper than it looks.

Sitting in the chair lift almost at the top.

Sitting in the chair lift almost at the top.

Pretty nice view.

Pretty nice view.

Ski map!

Ski map!

I can see Boston off in the Distance.  Way, Way, off in the distance.

I can see Boston off in the Distance. Way, Way, off in the distance.

At the top!

At the top!

Our reward back at home.

Our reward back at home.

 

Mummy/Daughter Day… Juneathon 14/30

Sprang out of bed early to go for a run, okay really it was a telemarketer calling at 8am on a Saturday  (why?????) that made me spring out of bed.  With a wakeup call like that, there was no way I was going to go back to sleep.  So I turned it into a “let’s get this run started” kind of moment, besides I was going to spend the afternoon with my daughter in Boston so I needed to get it done.  Ate a few chomps, drank some water and headed to my favorite 5 mile route (maybe not my favorite but one that has varied terrain like hills and some flat spots where I need them).  It went well and I finished feeling pretty good.

Headed back home to shower and have a late breakfast with the fam.  Then my daughter and I headed out to Boston.  For Mother’s day/my Birthday, she had purchased two tickets to the aquarium and then she had planned dinner at a fun little restaurant nearby all on her dime and we were off to redeem it.

We drove 45 minutes into the outskirts of Boston and took the subway in, changing trains several times but it was very enjoyable.  I love spending time with my kid.  We made it to the aquarium and had some fun time petting sting rays, clams, and starfish as well as visiting the penguins and huge fish tank in the middle of the aquarium filled with cool fish, eels and turtles.

After the aquarium we walked up to a well-known pastry shop for cannolis to take home and then it was off to dinner at The Barking Crab.  There is nothing like eating the seafood you just got to see in the exhibits at the aquarium.

It was a wonderful afternoon hanging out and walking around an awesome city with daughter.  It has been so much fun being her mom all these 19 years and I am looking forward to watching her grow into an adult.

(Oh I forgot to tell you that my daughter calls me Mummy so that is why the title is Mummy/Daughter)

Here’s some pics to enjoy of our day.  Oh and my Juneathon update for the day:

5 mile run

2-3 miles of walking in Boston

Happy 14th day of Juneathon!

Headed in on the subway.

Headed in on the subway.

Petting some stingrays

Petting some stingrays

Penguins!!!!

Penguins!!!!

Sea turtle.  Too cute.

Sea turtle. Too cute.

Coolest thing ever!  Sea dragon!

Coolest thing ever! Sea dragon!

She wanted to take home a penguin.  Being a good mom, I said "no"!

She wanted to take home a penguin. Being a good mom, I said “no”!

Off to the North End for some pastry's

Off to the North End for some pastry’s

Yummy!!!!

Yummy!!!!

Taking a little break by Boston Harbor

Taking a little break by Boston Harbor

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More Harbor!

A wonderful day, complete!  Inbound to home!

A wonderful day, complete! Inbound to home!

 

Cherish Jar Update

DSC_0663Last January I found this fabulous idea on Pinterest, I called it the Cherish Jar.  That became my word for the year, “cherish”.  Each time something would happen in our lives one of us (usually me) would take out a piece of paper and write a little note about it to be read at the beginning of the New Year.  The idea behind this is to cherish the small moments as well as the big moments and take some time to relive and reflect on them.

A few weeks ago we opened our jar…

It was fun to remember the moments and to see what was important (a moment to cherish) to different family members.  We laughed, I cried (because that is what I do but they were happy tears) and overall it was a wonderful experience.  This is something I would highly encourage anyone to do for several reasons.

  1. Our lives get so busy and it is easy to forget things that happened along the way.
  2. It is nice to look for moments in your everyday life that are moments you want to remember.
  3. Reliving these moments creates a wonderful memory in itself.

We have decided to do it again this year with a few pointers.

  1. Make sure you write the date on the piece of paper.
  2. Put on it as much detail as possible.
  3. Don’t limit yourself to only writing about events where the whole family was present because that is hard to do.
  4. Some of the coolest ones were the everyday moments that we forget about. (ex: we all remember trips taken but do you remember when one of the teachers at your child’s school says something nice about your child)

As we continue to find moments in our lives that we cherish maybe you should give it a try too.cherish4

I think we might have a problem….

I’m probably over reacting but come on look at the picture below:

IMG_1009 The top tube of toothpaste is the one my child brought home from college and the other one is the one we use.  My first thought when I saw it was, “Wow, anger issues?”  It looks like she is strangling someone.  Okay, Okay I’m probably reading too much into it but seriously!  I know I taught her how to do things like laundry (although folding her laundry is still an issue/she files her clothes under “f” for floor most of the time), cleaning, and how to respect others but I never thought I would have to teach her how to squeeze the toothpaste or should I say how not to squeeze the toothpaste!

Really I just find it very humorous.  I never thought I would be caught off guard or alarmed at something so small and it really is small.  I know she squeezes it like this because she is always in a hurry and maybe a little laziness but at least she is brushing!

So I’m not going to enter my child into therapy just yet but she better know, “I’m watching”!  🙂

Priorities

prioritiesWhat are yours?  I know mine.  They include stopping work on a Friday early enough to relax and unwind enough to enjoy the weekend.  (This is mainly why I only schedule a few clients on Fridays)  But today I was struck with a new view of priorities or maybe I should say a maturing view of priorities.

Today I picked up my daughter from college so she could come home for the first time since the end of August.  To me it seems like forever since I dropped her off and it is hard to believe it has only been a few weeks (I would say short but they have not been short to me).  We had a wonderful chat on the hour long drive home and I was pleased to hear how her priorities have developed/matured.  We discussed classes and how she hasn’t missed a single one and reports having anxiety over the thought of missing a class (gotta love that she is invested in school) and I attribute it to her priorities.  She is placing value in school and making it a priority.  I’m happy about that!  

But really what pleased me more was to hear about a past priority and how it has rewarded her (have I lost you yet?!).  So here I go trying to explain what I mean.  For the past 19 years I have made my family my priority.  I have made sure my daughter knows that I am fully invested in her and her future.  She knows boundaries because I have shown her or demonstrated for her how to put them into place.  My priority has been creating a wonderful woman to better the world and even at this early stage I can see it has been working.  priorities1

I’m not trying to be pompous or brag about my strengths here but as a parent it is sometimes hard to realize you are doing the right thing.  You think you are but you never see the rewards until now.  My daughter and I talked about the past 3 weeks and how everyone of her friends at school who saw us together talked about our relationship.  They asked her “you must have a great relationship with your mom” and she was able to brag and say “yes”.  When things aren’t going right at school she reaches out, when things are going great at school she reaches out, when she just wants to she reaches out.  One of my best priorities has been her and I am so glad I took the time to make her my priority because quite frankly, “She rocks”.  She is way more confident than I was at her age and I can hardly wait to see what else she will do with her priorities.   

So what are your priorities?  Are you taking time to balance your priorities in this crazy thing called life?  How?

Letting go…

umass1Well it finally happened.  Last Friday I had to let my little girl go off to college or should I say we had to drop my little girl off at college.  I did pretty good or at least I thought I did good for me!

We had a nice easy drive of about 50-55 minutes to the western part of the state with our Dunkin Donuts in hand because around here, “You can’t do anything without Dunkins!”  As we approached I started to get butterflies because I kept thinking, this is it, or this is the beginning, you decide.  We followed their maze to check-in which if you have about 4500 college students moving in together a maze of cones and streamlined check-in away from dorms is the way to go.umass

Anyway it went so fast.  All of sudden we were unloading the car, carrying things (with the help of volunteers) up 7 flights of stairs (nothing but the penthouse for my kid!), and then setting up her room.  Then we were off to buy her books (good thing her major is dance so we spent less than $200).  After a quick dinner, it was time.  The time that I kept putting off but knew it would have to come.

The butterflies of earlier came back, the fears of leaving her at college began to overwhelm, but I knew with confidence she would be fine.  We said our “Goodbyes” and took the last pic and drove away.  That is when it began… the tears.  Hey, I made it out of the college driveway before they started but they started.  I was beginning to finally let go or have I really been letting go all these years and now the reality of it set in.

I think you start letting go once kids can do things on their own.  You let go of doing it for them, although there were times that it would have been easier to just do it for them!  You start letting go when they go to school and look back over their shoulder and smile and their little wave.  You are letting go when they spend the night at their friend’s house, go to summer camp, or spend a week with their grandparents.  These moments give you a glimpse of what the future might be (albeit a short lived one because it is usually only a week at a time).  You are letting go when you see them come mackout on stage all by themselves and dance their little hearts out always leaving you breathless and overwhelmed that you produced that beautiful being on stage.  You start letting go when they begin to drive and finally pass their driving test and then they are driving themselves everywhere with no help from mom or dad (well except for filling the gas tank).  You are letting go when they go out on a date or stay out late with friends and make it home before their curfew (which better happen if they know what is good for them!).

So I guess I didn’t really let go for the first but it might have been the final realization that I no longer have control.  I have worked hard for 19 years on this umass2project of creating a wonderful human being with morals, values, independence and many other incredible attributes who I am proud to say “I have no control over”.  She is a force to be reckoned with and will do well at everything she puts her mind too.  I now need to focus on what/who I am without her daily presence in my life.  Maybe that is the other part of letting go…the new creation of me.  Maybe that is what I’m scared of.  For 19 years I been identified as her mother, I had friends and acquaintances through her and because of her.  Now it’s time to really do this on my own.  Well this outta be fun……….umass3

Catching up: (Juneathon 6/14, 6/15 &6/16)

I am beginning to think “what was I thinking, signing up for Juneathon because I am so unreliable in my blogging right now.”  Then I think, “well at least Juneathon is doing it’s job making me think about getting some sort of exercise in everyday” (it’s the writing about it that I am slacking at!). 

So here goes:

6/14: Fabulous Friday!!

I ran a 10K and didn’t even know it.  You know those times you just go out to do something (for me it is running) and then you just keep going because it is fun.  Then you get home and realize you were doing it pretty fast!  Thanks Mapmyrun for helping me finally get an accurate distance on some of my runs.  Here is what I did:

Duration Duration Average Pace Calories Burned
6.25 milese 51:59 8:19 617 kCal

See I told you it felt good!

6/15: Graduation Party day!!!!

Spent a lot of time setting up and then for fun we rented one of these:photo (3)

so I spent about 20 minutes bouncing around in it.  Let me tell you, it is some exercise!!!

6/16: Cleaning up after Graduation Party day!

I couldn’t just clean up because we still had the bounce house for another day so my daughter and I spent another 20-30 minutes in it bouncing.

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We had a great time as a family and went for a 1 mile evening walking after overeating Thai food which was followed up by ice cream from a local ice cream stand.

All in all it was a pretty successful exercising weekend and thanks Juneathon for making me aware that I need to do some amount of exercise on a daily basis!!!