Letting go…

Last night we were off to see my daughter dance as a part of the University Dancers.  These are dance majors who try out to be in their dance teacher’s pieces.  Not everyone makes it but those that do, do a wonderful job.  My daughter was able to be a part of her Dean’s piece and to top it all off it was his last dance piece because he is leaving the University to be the Chair of the a dance department in Hong Kong (how cool is that!).

She made the program.  On the far left!  Too cool.

She made the program. On the far left! Too cool.

Anyway, it was this really cool piece where they had to dance with lights and spotlight themselves as they danced and also each other.  I loved the portrayal of connectedness in the universe.  We are all connected.  I have never really been a dancer (well I’ve been taking tap dancing for about 6 years but still learning) but I love art and art expression and to me most of these dance pieces touched me in one way or another.

What I really love is being able to watch my daughter dance and do something she loves.  You can just tell this is how she expresses herself.  I miss seeing this on an almost daily basis.  When she was growing up, I was always a part of her dance studio.  I was able to watch her pieces develop and then watch them be mastered and displayed on stage.  I miss that but I’m so glad she has found a place that fits her so well.

So now in her second year at college I find I am still adjusting to her being away.  I miss not being a part of her life every day.  I also miss watching her grow as a dancer and performer.  I do find it is easier than last year but it is strange raising a child and then letting them go to spread their wings.  I can honestly say it is not easy but I try to have confidence that because of her upbringing she will make good decisions.  So far so good!  I think I need to work a little more at letting go.  But really the only thing that helps someone when they are letting go is time.  No rush through time here!  I’m gonna cherish everything.

A lot about nothing…

jen&surag- smile a lot, it costs nothingIn an effort to write more often I thought I would just write a post about nothing.  Okay you can’t really write about nothing.  I guess just in the shear act of writing makes it about something.  So here goes…

Today in my group, my client’s and I discussed changing our thoughts and learning reframing.  This is a common topic in addiction and recovery.  The thought being that if we can change our thinking to more positive than when negative things happen in our lives we won’t immediately turn to what we used to escape our situation while also learning to find the more positive in every situation.  I’m not sure whether everyone bought into what I was teaching well in fact I am sure that not everyone did because at one point I had a client say, “I usually like what you teach but today I’m bored and just don’t get it.”    I don’t know whether you have ever had this happen to you but it can be hard to keep going when you meet resistance like that.  But on I pushed because that is what I do.

Then after meeting with all my clients and getting out of work a little early, I headed to the gym for my run.  While on the treadmill my glutes where screaming at me (I am sure it is due to yesterday’s weighted lunges), “I just don’t get it, why do you have to be so mean to us.  All we do is carry you around all day and you subject us to torture.”  But yes, you guessed it when met with resistance, I pushed on.  Got in 5 miles worth of speedwork alternating between running at 7 and then up to 7.5 or higher at alternating laps up to 10 at the end (only .10 at that speed but it always does me in).

So now I sit.  The idea of walking is not even a thought.  I spent a lot of time rolling this evening but my glutes kind of hate me right now.  I’m okay with that because what they don’t know is that marathon training number 4 starts soon.  (Anyone else say, holy crap #4, I can hardly believe it myself).

I don’t really have a lot going on right now other than trying to figure out when I am going to go shopping for Christmas.  All 5 of my trees are up, the house is completely decorated and the gentle snow that happened this evening has me in the spirit.

Are you ready for Christmas or this holiday season? 

See I told you it was a post about nothing!  Have a wonderful evening.allornothing

Gratitude…

gratitude10Tomorrow is the biggest day of year that those of us in the United States hopefully spend some moments talking about what we are grateful for.  I say hopefully because sometimes I think we forget about what the holiday of thanksgiving is about.  Saying “thank you”, appreciating what you have been given and the little things in life.

This week I spent some time each day in my therapy groups, requiring each one of my group members to talk about what they are thankful for.  I challenged them to think deeper.  Look at the small things because sometimes it is the small things that are really the big things.

I love having this opportunity to challenge my clients and see how they respond, mainly because they inspire me.  I heard things from grateful for my sobriety, to having the trust back with family, to being happy about health and how well they feel today, as well as happy to be alive.

I also chatted with my clients to discuss how they felt after doing this activity.  My clients commented about how this made them feel and the general feeling was very good.  I asked them “why do you not do this more often, think about things that make your life great.”  That could not be answered but it became a challenge.  Why not do it every day?!  I talked to them about how I make a list every day of at least 3 things that I am grateful for and I don’t use the same things each week.  This is quite a challenge and really makes me think beyond the obvious.  gratitude11

This is my challenge for everyone.  Why wait for one day a year to be grateful?  Why not practice it each day?  I promise you, life will change for you, your outlook on things will change, and you will be more grateful for everyday life.

Motivational Monday 11/24/14

As we in the United States approach the biggest day of the year where we express our gratitude and thanks, I encourage you to not just live one day in gratitude but each day in gratitude.

Happy Monday!

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Rock and Roll Vegas Recap

IMG_0219Last Sunday was the Rock and Roll Vegas Marathon and Half Marathon.  I was excited to fly across the country to Vegas, see my sister (who I haven’t seen in 2 years) and of course run a race especially looking forward to running the Vegas Strip at night.

The first stop like always was the expo.  It was nice to walk around on Friday and take our time looking at things, believe me there were lots of things to look at!!!  Then I went back on Saturday with my sis to pick up her bib and it was overwhelmingly packed!!!  But I guess that is what happens when you have a huge race like this.

Expo fun with my sister.

Expo fun with my sister.

On Sunday we had all day to lay around and relax because the race didn’t start until 4:30 which would allow us to “run the strip at night”.  Or as RNR calls it “We run the night”.

The bad part of running at night is that it is cold in the dessert at night and oh yeah, I forgot to mention, it didn’t get out of the 40’s during the day.  Amazingly the only cold day they had in Vegas so far in November was on race day, Sunday and the winds were about 15-20 mph.

We waited until the latest possible to go down to the start but I was in Wave 4 so I wanted to get there at least 30 mins early.  My sis was in wave 36 so I didn’t get to see her until after she finished but that was fun cheering her on to the end!

More expo fun.  The agony and the ecstasy.

More expo fun. The agony and the ecstasy.

The race started on time and was fun.  We got a pep talk from Meb (Boston Marathon winner and 4th place in New York City) and then we started.  Each wave got a start of their own.  There were about 2 or 3 minutes between each wave and they made it special for each wave.

It was fun to run the strip and high five the thousands and thousands of people watching in front of the hotels but after you left the strip it got pretty quiet and dark.  I’m not really experienced running in the dark and found myself running very cautiously so I didn’t land in a pothole or turn my ankle (if it was gonna happen it was probably gonna happen to me!).    We made it down to Old Vegas and then the marathoners broke from us half marathoners and headed down Tremont Street.  I am sure it was cool to run through Tremont Street but I’m not sure the rest of it would have been that much fun.  I imagined the full marathon would have been out into very desolate areas of Vegas and I am pretty sure there were not many people cheering you on (mainly due to how cold it was). IMG_0231

As I headed back towards the strip for the finish I just tried to relax, have fun and keep focused on the Mirage in the distance which was near the finish line.  I was amazed to see how many runners where on the other side of the strip running towards me that were in the later waves.  I was glad to be done and very interested in warming up.

In the end, I would say it was a fun race, good for first timers which I feel that is what they appeal too but not really my favorite.  I wanted more bands along the routes and maybe a little more light in the sketchy areas so I wouldn’t have to run so tentatively.  I have stated that I have no interest in doing it again but it was definitely something I feel good about doing.  If you are interested in hanging out with about 30,000 runners and are okay with running in the dark at some points, give it a try!

And here are all the pics of event you have been waiting for: Enjoy!

My sis and I on the first night at dinner.  It was great to see her.

My sis and I on the first night at dinner. It was great to see her.

Dave and I in Venice, okay at the Venetian!

Dave and I in Venice, okay at the Venetian!

Family selfie!

Family selfie!

Nice view for Breakfast at the Hard Rock

Nice view for Breakfast at the Hard Rock

Pretty cool rubber ducky at the SLS hotel

Pretty cool rubber ducky at the SLS hotel

Race day!  Had shorts to wear but in the 40's went with the tights.

Race day! Had shorts to wear but in the 40’s went with the tights.

All done!

All done!

Our Cheering Squad

Our Cheering Squad

Final results.

Final results.

Headed home!

Headed home!

Hug a Runner Day

Today is Hug a Runner Day!  I don’t know about you but the first thing I want after I finish a race or run is a nice hug.  I have had quite a few over the years.  Here is an example:

Runfie side hug of my biggest supporter on a cold New Years Day.

Runfie side hug of my biggest supporter on a cold New Years Day.

Hyannis Half with Bill Rogers and Dick Beardsley - nice fun hug at the expo

Hyannis Half with Bill Rogers and Dick Beardsley – nice fun hug at the expo

Bill, me and Mark Bravo at the OKC marathon expo in April

Bill, me and Mark Bravo at the OKC marathon expo in April

Me and Dick at the OKC expo

Me and Dick at the OKC expo

Marathon Scott who helped me across the finish line of the OKC marathon in April

Marathon Scott who helped me across the finish line of the OKC marathon in April

Me and Peggy at the OKC marathon in 2013 when I was able to cross by myself.

Me and Peggy at the OKC marathon in 2013 when I was able to cross by myself.

Me and Judy in October at my 2nd marathon of the year and her very first!  Love new running friends.

Me and Judy in October at my 2nd marathon of the year and her very first! Love new running friends.

My sis and me at the Rock and Roll Vegas Half this past Sunday!

My sis and me at the Rock and Roll Vegas Half this past Sunday!

My beautiful little girl after my first ever marathon.

My beautiful little girl after my first ever marathon.

But must end with my biggest supporter and love of my life, Dave.  He gives the best hugs!!!

But must end with my biggest supporter and love of my life, Dave. He gives the best hugs!!!

Now it is your job to go HUG A RUNNER!  I don’t care if they are sweaty!  Share the warmth!  :-)

 

So excited…

vegasThis week I have been counting down to my big adventure to Vegas this weekend.  Back in May my sister gave me a wonderful running gift of buying me the Rock’n Roll Vegas half marathon.  I have been counting down ever since and now it is here.  I’ve been restless all week for many reasons:

 

  1. I get to see my sister who I haven’t seen in over 2 years.
  2. I’m excited about ending this wonderful year of running with a fun half marathon
  3. I just found out that Meb (winner of the Boston Marathon) is going to run a pace group in wave 6. I’m running in wave 4 so there is a chance I will be able to cross the finish line with Meb.  How cool is that! (Maybe I will finish before him and get to be there when he crosses.  No pressure there!)

 

 

Anyway, this is why I have been absent.  I have been planning my trip and getting a few extra hours in at work to not have to take to many vacation hours.  But tonight at 4pm, vacation began.  I’m excited and looking forward to the time away.

 

Are there things you are looking forward to this weekend?  Follow me on Instagram and you can keep up with my pics from my crazy Vegas adventure!